Keeping the bubbles fizzing, happies hopping & love bugs buzzing

Everyone says marriage is hard, but if you put in the effort, marriage pays out some pretty amazing dividends. For both of us, this was certainly true in our first marriages. Until it wasn’t.

When the credit limit on resentment and contempt maxed out, we liquidated our losses for a massive balloon payment in divorce.

Even though our ❤️‍🩹 hearts had been stretched too thin, we somehow both emerged with a vulnerability that made us more open to deeper love. . . with each other.

And we embraced it.

In stepping onto this love playground the second time around, we decided to change the rules from our first go-rounds. We thought we’d be better off if we were more mindful in our relationship, to ourselves, and to each other.

We have intentionally, intuitively and instinctively created and maintained a practice of staying Mindful in Love. This newsletter is our space to share what we have learned, in hopes of spilling our love’s joy-bubbles all over YOU.

The Hobbit

I emerged from a loveless and broken marriage with an overwhelming sense of gratitude. My life felt simpler; my mind felt clearer. For the first time in years, I felt functional and whole.

• I am blessed with a simple mind and active imagination. I'm easily fascinated.

• I am a workaday automaton whose programming is more R2D2 than C3P0. 

• I prefer doing over talking about doing. 

• Getting a rickety thing off the ground is more my superpower than creating the perfect rocket ship.

The Owl

When my first husband left me to live as a celibate monk, I learned that home is not a place but a feeling, love is not an emotion but a state of being, and wounds are not curses, but rather, precious gifts of life.

• I am a strong, confident, independent, articulate, curious, quirky, intelligent, sensitive, intuitive, self-aware creature all wrapped up in an x-small package. 

• I believe in writing in ink, crossing out, and making a mess because the mess is the fun.

• I strive to be mindful of every texture of an of life, from the frothy foam of joy’s bubbling, to the cold zings of grief’s grip, to the electric zaps of anger’s passion.

• I’m a professional listener, mindfulness master, monkey-mind shusher, and perspective shifter. Be it crooked or confused or careful or conscious, your experiences and stumbles and crumbles are valid and precious.

You Should Join Us If…

• The voices in your head whisper encouraging words.

• You savor intelligent conversation sparked from mundane moments.

• You can enjoy a walk in the rain without an umbrella.

• You are prone to a good laugh until you cry…or better yet, a good cry until you laugh.

• You have a solid marriage, and it could be better.

• You emerged from a difficult relationship and want to be better.

• You crave a deep relationship - with yourself - so you can be better in partnership.

What to Expect

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• The Happy Bits - Our absurdly awkward and very real-life stories about staying Mindful in Love.

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• The Juicy Bits - the especially vulnerable posts that are too 🙈🍆🍑 for the general public 👀.

• The Meaty Bits - Mindful in Love Tips & Tricks to keep your happies hopping.
  These love-hacks have been anecdotally and not-at-all-clinically proven (by us) to enhance the magick muffins of relationship.